Unfairness

I think it is very unfair that people are treated unequal due to their gender. I have noticed here at school that those who are lesbian, gay, or bisexual are shunned and ignored. I have also noticed that if someone is gay they are often times rejected by someone of the same sex. For example, I went to the starbucks right by school one day and this boy who was about 18 dropped a twenty dollar bill on the floor and the very feminine gay boy who was in line behind him picked it up and told him that he had dropped his change and handed it to him with a sincere and polite smile. The 18 year old snatched it from the gay boy and told him," keep your damn hands off my money faggot, I bet you were trying to reach for something else" and the 18 year old's friends began laughing and encouraging their friend for being rude. Luckily the lady behind the gay boy told the 18 year old to eff off and he ought to be more accepting considering the gay boy is a lot cuter than him. They all shut up and got their drinks and walked off but I will never forget the look of the gay boy's face of sadness and unacceptance when that 18 year said that along with the friends praising him. The gay boy had such a heartbreaking look on his face, but still tried to compose himself and ordered his drink. I noticed that as he walked away he did not have that same bounce in his walk as he first did when he walked into the coffee shop. I think people should stop being so unfair and try to be more accepting.

Women not equal?

In these past months, I've noticed an increasing amount of arguments over gender quality and the struggle for men and women to have equal rights. I've noticed terms like "feminist" turned around into a term for men called "meninist". This "meninist" group is a mixed group of men who genuinely believe it's for the better of humanity for men and the other half of the group is immature "men" making fun and joking about the real struggles that women go through in their everyday life. I don't think that the inequality of women is anywhere near being made a joke. The fact that women still get paid less than a man doing the same job is horrid. The fact that women are afraid to simply walk down the street alone at night is extremely saddening. The fact that this group even exists makes me scared of what and who my future daughters will have to deal with. I think society needs to wake up and realize that we don't live in a perfect world and we never have. There are dirty secrets within society that need to be shown and shared with the world.

last minute blogging

I will be honest, this quarter I'm blogging super last minute. I got caught up in a number of things that aren't as important as school and I should have took a step back to set my priorities straight.
Anyways, I really wish I had more self confidence. Being a girl, I feel like everyday I have to make sure I have some makeup on and my hair curled or straightened and dress nice (which I never do because it's too cold and all I can even think about wearing is a sweatshirt and jeans). I've gotten better the past couple of months and I've began to braid my hair every night after I take a shower so it's wavy-ish in the morning because I use too much heat on my hair which is damaging it and I don't wear as much makeup because 0 period is too early to function. Some people don't have the confidence to wear no makeup at all because of the way they think they have to live because of stereotypes. Stereotypes are quickly changing our world's view on everyday things and the world will surely not be the same in a couple years.

stereotypes

There are so many gender stereotypes and some are negative while some are positive and they don't always tell the right information. When people automatically assume something about someone, they're being influenced by stereotypes to say that. Some stereotypes are how women are supposed to stay home and take care of the children while men are supposed to make money to support his family. These stereotypes can be quite hurtful to some people and lower their expressions. I think that we should all be able to do whatever we want without being judged and we should all have the ability to become doctors or nurses or be tall or petite or play with trucks or dolls or be good at math or english. When we have kids, we should open them up to more options that they will look back on such as wearing all types of clothes and playing with any toys because it sets them up on what to think during their lives about other people. It's sad how many stereotypes people have about everyone these days.

Who I Am.

As I read through all of the blog posts, I see a commonality. We all don't like the stereotypes that have been passed down year after year and we all agree that we don't all necessarily fit the stereotype that has been pushed onto us. I am sitting here thinking to myself about what to talk about during this blog post because everybody has already said the thoughts that have been rummaging through my mind. All I have to say is that I am sick of society and how we judge each other, myself included. I don't like how labels are put on us judging by the color of our skin, how tall or short we are, what clothes we wear, what foods we eat, the friends we have, etc. I am white and I am proud of it. I am a girl and I am proud of it. I think we all should be proud of who we are and where we come from no matter what anybody else says.


This packet of articles has brought several questions in my head. Such as in Judith Butler's YouTube clip titled phylosohpe I ask myself how do we stop this cruelty? Because no one should ever be harmed because they are different in societies eyes. Also is Deborah Tannen's passage called His Politeness Is her Powerlessness, why are women seen as so weak? Why are we so afraid to speak up for what we want? Why is standing up for our self such an outrageous act? Leading to more curious questions of what exactly is fitting in? What does it mean to be apart of the "in crowd"? Why is everyone so judgmental when we are scared to be judged our self?


Reading through these several articles is hard in a sense because no matter how you look at them somebody is being sympathized for, somebody is being beaten down, somebody is treating someone else unfair. No matter what you do society will always have something to say, so be who ever it is that you want to be. I think this lesson was a good lesson for us all because we all know what it is like to feel judged and none of us like it, this lesson has helped me to realize that I am not alone because others feel this way as well.

Who is stronger, a man or a woman?

A question that was presented to me recently was ‘what is true strength?’ The first thing that automatically comes to mind is physical strength but is that what really what ‘true’ strength is? If you were asked the question, ‘who is stronger, a man or a woman?’ some might answer man because he is physically stronger which in most cases is true. However, if you see it from a different point of view there may be no answer. A person could be knocked down over and over again but as long as they have a motivation to get back up it won’t matter how many times they take another blow. So in other words, you don’t need to be physically strong but as long as you have the will power to get back up you’ll always have the chance to come out victorious. So wouldn’t that mean that your will power would be your true strength? When you give up on everything it doesn’t matter how physically strong you are, you’ll still come crumbling down so physical strength shouldn’t matter when determining someone’s true strength; therefore, men won’t be the only ones who can be strong but women as well. Another way you can see true strength is kindness. It’s so easy to just give someone the cold shoulder and such an effort to put up with the people who will never show you a sign of gratitude. It takes a lot out of a person to be kind especially when they themselves are going through hardships, not everyone can do that so I see it as true strength. 

Its sucks being a girl sometimes....

Honestly it can really suck being a girl, well at least in my household it is. Women are always looked down as fragile and dependent on others. In my household it’s just my older sister and I and we are both struggling in our own way to obtain some freedom and independence from our parents. It’s a nice feeling knowing your parents worry about you and all but we’re getting older and they still keep us on a leash. Growing up I was always surrounded by many family members such as cousins who are luckily the same age but the difference between us is our genders.  As we grew older they got to go outside regardless of if they were hanging out with friends or just cursing around town. For my sister and I on the other hand couldn’t go out unless our parents knew the details and we couldn’t go outside by ourselves. During my sister’s high school years she became quite rebellious only because she felt like a bird in a cage, if our parents could have just given some freedom and trust from the start she wouldn’t of had to be so rebellious. I on the other hand didn’t rebel because I knew the consequences my sister obtained when she rebelled so I thought to myself “just be the good child and gain their trust, soon enough they will let me go outside”, yeeaaa that didn’t really go as planned. I did all they asked but its only till now that I’m able to walk around a bit on my own while my cousins on the other hand have been doing that and more for years already. It sucks because when the day does come and it’s time to live outside of the cage I worry I won’t be mentally prepared, that I’ll get drunk off freedom. Sometimes I can’t help but wonder if guys know how lucky they are when it comes to the little things in everyday life such as this.